Love Notes
Is it love or just attraction?
Attraction feels like fireworks. Love feels like home. Here's how to tell them apart.
By Coach KJ Mensah, founder of AfroDuo and relationship coach
Early feelings can be powerful and confusing. Knowing the difference helps you make wise choices.
Attraction is about how they make you feel right now
Butterflies, excitement, constant thoughts about them. It's wonderful, and it fades with time.
Love shows up in hard moments
When you're sick, stressed or wrong, love stays kind and patient.
Love sees the whole person
You know their flaws and still choose them, without wanting to change who they are.
Love builds a future
You start making plans together and include each other in decisions.
Attraction may start the story. Love is what keeps writing it. Give it time to show which one you have.
AfroDuo is a dating app for Africans at home and across the diaspora who want serious relationships. Every member verifies their ID, so the people you meet are real.
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