Love Notes
Real advice for real love
Short, honest reads on dating, marriage and staying safe, written for Africans at home and across the diaspora.
By Coach KJ Mensah
7 green flags that someone is ready for marriageChemistry is easy to spot. Readiness takes a closer look. Here are seven signs the person you're talking to is serious about building a life.How to spot a romance scammer before it costs youRomance scams target Africans at home and in the diaspora every day. These are the warning signs, and what to do if something feels off.Long-distance love between Africa and the diaspora: how to make it workAccra to Atlanta. Lagos to London. Long distance can work if you build it on purpose. Here's how.What to put in your dating profile (and what to leave out)Your profile is your first impression. A few simple changes can bring you better matches and better conversations.When should you introduce someone to your family?In African homes, family is part of the love story. Here's how to know when it's time, and how to do it well.First date ideas that actually let you talkLoud clubs and long movies make first dates harder. Try these instead.The money talk every couple should have before marriageMoney fights break more marriages than almost anything else. Have this conversation early, while it's still easy.Dating as a single parent: what to knowHaving children doesn't take you off the market. It just means you date with more wisdom. Here's how to do it well.Faith and dating: how to talk about what you believeIf faith matters to you, it should come up early. Here's how to have that conversation without making it a test.Red flags to notice in the first month of datingEarly excitement can make it easy to ignore warning signs. Here are the ones worth taking seriously.How to start a conversation with a new matchA plain "Hi" rarely gets a reply. Here is how to send a first message that starts a real conversation.Healing after a breakup before you date againJumping back in too soon can repeat old pain. Here's how to know you're ready.Dating in your 30s and 40s: you're not lateFamily keeps asking when you'll marry. Here's why dating later can actually be an advantage.What respect looks like in a healthy relationshipLove is the feeling. Respect is how it shows up every day.Why your first date should be a video callEspecially across cities and countries, a video date saves time, money and heartache.Five communication habits that keep couples closeGood communication isn't about talking more. It's about talking in a way that brings you closer.Meeting your online match in person: a safety checklistThe first in-person meeting should feel exciting, not risky. Use this checklist.Love across cultures: dating someone from a different African country or backgroundA Ghanaian and a Kenyan. A Nigerian and a Jamaican. Different backgrounds can make a beautiful marriage. Here's how.Is it love or just attraction?Attraction feels like fireworks. Love feels like home. Here's how to tell them apart.Have standards, not wallsStandards protect your heart. Walls keep everyone out, including the right person.
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