Love Notes
Why your first date should be a video call
Especially across cities and countries, a video date saves time, money and heartache.
By Coach KJ Mensah, founder of AfroDuo and relationship coach
Before you travel or plan a dinner, try a 20 to 30 minute video call. It's one of the easiest ways to protect your time and your heart.
You confirm they're real
Seeing someone live, talking and smiling, removes most doubts about fake profiles.
You feel the connection
Chemistry shows up in voice, laughter and eye contact. Texts can't show that.
It's low pressure
No travel, no cost, and an easy way to end politely if it's not a fit.
Make it a real date
Dress nicely, find good light, sit somewhere quiet. Maybe eat dinner together or share a cup of tea.
AfroDuo lets matched members video call right in the app, without sharing phone numbers. Use it.
AfroDuo is a dating app for Africans at home and across the diaspora who want serious relationships. Every member verifies their ID, so the people you meet are real.
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